I knew things would change when I found out last August that I was expecting my first baby. I didn’t underestimate how much, or think that it would be easy. I knew there would be less Me time and more Us time, but less ‘Us time’ in regards to me and hubby.
Baby is four months old now, and yes, things are so different than they were a year ago. Wonderfully different, mostly. Sure, the diapers and the spitting up I could do without. Really. I didn’t think babies could spit up that much! But then I’d be doing away with all the smiles and ‘happy legs’ and burbling that Owen is doing right now. He talks a lot these days, which is great fun.
I can’t go anywhere by myself now, unless Hubby watches the baby. Technically I can’t go anywhere, as my car is not quite drivable to the standards that Hubby wants for his wife and son. I feel a little trapped at times, but I keep reminding myself that ‘this too shall pass.’ It is only temporary.
I can’t take a nap whenever I want - only when baby is sleeping! Except when baby is sleeping its time to shower, vacuum, or eat… or sit outside in the sun with a book and without worrying about baby’s sensitive skin.
I can’t really type when baby is awake. If I’m holding him, one-handed ‘pecking’ at the keyboard is slow and difficult, especially with my ergonomic keyboard (which I love, normally). I like to spend time on the computer, and he really cramps my style! Unless I blog/surf/whatever while he’s napping. When I should be doing other things. Like right now. Ahem. Anyway…
My body, which wasn’t the best to start with a year ago, is… different. I hope Owen appreciates what I went through for him. More on this in another post.
Sometimes I run out of things to babble to Owen about. I’ve begun narrating what I’m doing to him, which is fascinating to a baby, but the adults in my life are starting to think I’m crazy when I do it to them. Especially when I’m talking about myself in the third person. “Mommy is getting the lasagna out of the oven…gotta be careful ’cause its hot!” Yeah. I’m cool.
These things aren’t ‘bad,’ mind you, just slight inconveniences. I wouldn’t trade Owen for any of them.
If I did trade him I’d miss out on his first giggles, which I’m pretty sure are right around the corner.
I’d miss him pumping his little legs like he’s ready to take on the Tour de France if only I’d get him a tiny bike and hold him upright.
I’d miss seeing hubby making faces at him, and cuddling him. Talk about melting, there’s nothing better than a father making much of his son. Or daughter, I suppose, but we only have the one.
I’d miss Owen’s ready smiles and grabby hands as he learns how to put everything into his mouth.
So while being a mom carries a price, I’m not complaining. I may not be a perfect mother, but I’m learning and doing my best. And I suppose that’s all I can do.
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